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Part III. Which Child is at Risk of Being Alienated?

If a parent attempts to alienate their child against the other parent, some children will be able to resist and remain connected to both.  In learning which children are more likely to be successfully alienated some patterns have been identified.  For example, children younger than seven years of age are less likely to become alienated from one parent because they

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Early Childhood Living Arrangements After Separation and Divorce

Early Childhood Living Arrangements After Separation and Divorce (6-8 Year of Age) Ann Marie Termini, Ed.S., M.S., LPC In determining the appropriateness of early childhood (6 to 8 years of age) living arrangements after separation and divorce, parents should carefully consider their family’s particular background, environments, needs and preferences. In addition, maximizing a child’s adjustment to the process of separation

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Part II. Coping with Alienation; What about Extended Family or Siblings?

In Part I, we addressed the impact of parental alienation on the rejected parent. Although there is not enough written about the rejected or targeted parent, there is even less written about the impact of alienation on the extended family or siblings who are left behind. Extended family and siblings also experience the tremendous and irrational loss by the alienated

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How Parents Can Help 6-8 Year Olds Navigate Divorce

How Parents Can Help 6-8 Year Olds Navigate Divorce Ann Marie Termini, Ed.S., M.S., LPC  Parents play a vital role in helping their six to eight year old child successfully navigate their parents’ divorce. Children this age experience many feelings including painful feelings of sadness and profound loss in reaction to their parents’ separation. Parents need to acknowledge their child’s

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Coping with Alienation; Part I-What About the Targeted Parent?

There is plenty written about parental alienation, the parent who brainwashes and the impact of alienation on the child.  There is less written about the devastation of the parent who is ultimately rejected by their child as a result of parental alienation.  Often this rejected parent is referred to as the “targeted’ parent. Characteristics of the Targeted Parent:  Researchers have

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Impact of Divorce on Early Childhood

Impact of Divorce on Children of Early Childhood (6 to 8 years of age) Ann Marie Termini, Ed.S., M.S., LPC The impact of divorce, on children of early childhood, influences the child’s development in several ways. In a study conducted by Ebling, Pruett and Kline-Pruett (2009), they revealed that three to seven year olds hold accurate, simple understanding of divorce.

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Warning.Bad Divorce Advice

For those who have been through a divorce, you have learned the hard way all that is involved in the divorce process. Some of you may have even had a bad experience with one of the professionals involved. Of course you are thinking that I am referring to the “opposing” attorney, but I am not. Your own attorney is capable

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Early Childhood Development (Six to Eight Years of Age)

Early Childhood Development Six to Eight years of Age Ann Marie Termini, Ed.S., M.S., LPC Getty Images Each stage of development, including early childhood involves specific milestones. This blog series will address early childhood development, reactions to family separation during this developmental stage, how parents can help their child adjust, and suggestions for living arrangements for this age group after

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Challenged by Change

According to Ray Kelly, “One of the problems humans face is that we cling to something as if it were permanent. By embracing the illusion of permanence, we set ourselves up for suffering. We become discouraged and afraid when this illusion is shattered and things change.” When challenged by change, we try to fight by swimming against the flow thus

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Middle Aged Childs Living Arrangements After Separation and Divorce

Middle Aged Child’s Living Arrangements After Separation and Divorce Ann Marie Termini, Ed.S., M.S., LPC There is no single living arrangement after separation and divorce that works best for all families with middle aged (9-12 years of age) children. In determining the appropriateness of a parenting time schedule for any aged child, parents should consider their family’s circumstances, needs, preferences,

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